People Tell Me I’m Strong

so why do I feel so helpless and incapable? I don’t know what they are seeing, I suspect they are trying to boost me up so I will be strong. I don’t know.


stay away from people who make you feel like you are hard to love

(Source: noseblush)

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One Dress - Endless Possibilities: Part 4: Outfits Compilation!

Here are all three of my outfits showcasing ways to wear the Eternity Convertible Dress by SWAK Designs

To view outfits details for the individual outfits, click accordingly:
Part 1 - the Dress!
Part 2 - the Skirt!
Part 3 - the Tunic!

I want to start by talking about the denim jacket from SWAK that I’m wearing.  Not only is it totally adorable, but it’s also a blast to wear.  The denim is soft, stretchy, and just ridiculously comfortable.  It was very easily incorporated into these three looks and I can’t wait to see what else it pairs well with in my closet for spring and many seasons to come.  If you’re interested, now is the perfect time to get your hands on one - as it’s on sale right now for just $29.99 (50% off)!  Here’s a direct link to the Classic Denim Jacket itself and also a link to SWAK’s plus size tops in case you’d like to browse.

One of the best things about the convertible dress is not only can it transform into several styles of dresses, but also skirts and tunics!  SWAK actually has an entire page dedicated to videos showing different ways to wear this dress.  As you can see, I used this opportunity to make up three different outfits ranging from a romantic evening attire to flirty casual.  I seriously cannot get over the versatility and range that this dress has going for it.  This color is just magnificent and it’s not a shade I would normally pick out for myself, but I’m so glad I did this time around.  Oh, and talk about comfort!  This dress is so soft, so stretchy, offers great support, and lays on the body so nicely.  This is actually the first convertible dress I’ve ever tried out and I have to say - I can definitely see what all the rave is about.
Here is the Eternity Wrap Dress on SWAK’s site and here is the rest of their plus size dresses.

Other outfits I’ve done featuring SWAK Designs:
Look One
Look Two

Reblogging this because my awesome friend Pey let me know if you use SWAKSAS414, it’ll give you 15% off your order until late May! (:

I ordered the denim jacket and so should youuuuuu!!! (comes out to $30USD with the coupon code and basic shipping!)

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dear caretakers of children: stop telling kids “I don’t care who started it!”. you’re teaching children to ignore unequal power balances. that leads to legitimate belief in things like reverse racism, misandry, heterophobia, etc. you’re teaching children that it’s wrong to retaliate when they are wronged. “who started it” is very, very relevant.


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Self Portrait - “If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.” / / amberlyn photography

When I came out about my childhood sexual abuse, my entire family stated that they were “neutral”. They still do not understand why I feel that they chose my brother’s side. They still don’t understand that cutting them out was not my choice. Photographed at an abandoned building, because that’s what I feel they did to me.

EXACTLY. EXACTLY. They abandoned me, emotionally and in regards to the TRUTH and I’ve now abandoned them. No more family gatherings, no more “catching up” emails, I want nothing to do with them. They didn’t protect me then and they obviously don’t care about me now. I’m trying really hard to heal my relationship with my mother, but it’s tough - really tough - when she talks about my brother after having been told by me dozens of times that I don’t want to hear ANYTHING about him. The only reason I still try is because she has apologized and admitted to me that she did not protect me as she should have. But she, and my father (deceased) were both complicit in my abuse by choosing to ignore it. 

I’m so sorry you’re going through this as well.

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NEVER trust an adult who won’t apologize to a child

Wow. I’d never seen it put that way, but. Wow. That is a really good piece of advice.

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The Secret Life Of The Manic Depressive

This is so poignant for me right now.

Me too. It’s both really sad and really uplifting to see other people saying the things you think when you’re in a depression. 

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If someone doesn’t “seem” disabled to you, maybe it’s because they’ve been forced to develop a huge and complex system of coping mechanisms in order to try and survive in an ableist world. It’s probably that.

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everythingisvibrations said: However, I do want to ask a specific question to you. What was the point of exaggerating and insulting me with your bold paragraph saying I was mansplaining? Do you like it people do the same to you and just exaggerate or get angry at what you said and call you awful things like "feminazi"? Why did you do that?

Holy shit, dude. You.Don’t.Get.It.


That’s all I’m saying. Please stop sending me multiple messages about how mean I am to you and asking why I’m so mean. Enjoy your white male privilege elsewhere.


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I have an autistic spectrum disorder. I don’t always understand things or communicate them the way others do. My wife had to say to someone just the other day, “it sounds like he’s arguing, but he really is just trying to understand.”

I just had to say that. Had to let you know. I just have…

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